Earlier tonight (well, it’s morning now since coughing woke me up and I can’t get back to sleep), David and I were going over some of the details for the wedding. Opening prayer/remarks, gathering words, reading/poem, song, marriage address, vows, ring exchange, final blessing and pronouncement…
(We are writing out own vows, and we’re keeping them secret from each other until the BIG day!)
We also went through our list of songs so that we could decide which song we’ll be using for the ceremony and then which song will be our first dance. So far we’re leaning towards having my uncle sing “I Cross my Heart” by George Strait during the ceremony, and then having our first dance to “Your Everything” by Keith Urban. It’s funny, David is in a rock band (they sing stuff like Lynrd Skynrd, Alice in Chains, 3 Doors Down…) and the two songs we’ve picked are country music. We both like all different kinds of music, but my uncle is going to play his guitar and sing those two songs for us.
We’ve set our priorities: venue; photos; invitations & attire, flowers, food/liquor, cake, favors…etc…The most important thing to us was the venue, which is free to use, but we’re going to have to spend some money getting it ready for the wedding. Then photos, which we’re willing to spend some money on but not a whole lot (we don’t have a medium lot much less a whole lot). The invitations are important but what we’re spending money on is the paper goods and the ink for my printer and stamps so we’re definitely cutting costs there. Since I already have my dress (thanks to a wonderful family member), all I have to worry about is the alterations. Have my gorgeous shoes. David has his black suit so we just have to get the vest and tie, and his socks. Then, of course, there are the flowers. Oh, sweet beautiful flowers. Especially since I want red roses. And I don’t want just red roses, I also want the white roses with the red blush, and then one yellow rose to go in the center of my bouquet in memory of those who can only be there in spirit. I think the blush roses are called Rossini roses. We don’t have to pay for the music, our friends and family are providing that for us…No charge. Love having musical friends!
The really exciting part about the photography is that David’s friend Katie has a friend that is a photographer (a professional) and we’re meeting her tomorrow afternoon to go over her packages. If the package is affordable Katie is giving us that as our wedding present. Isn’t that just amazing and sweet? I’m so awed by everyone’s generosity.
Things have been hectic for us. (Especially since David’s dad started chemo on Monday for stage 3 Lymphoma.) We’re paying for the wedding ourselves (we’ve both been married before but neither of us had a wedding) and we’re older (though David is actually still young–I don’t think 33 (almost 34) is old). My parents are getting their yard ready but we need to get an arch or something, as well as things like lights for the reception area, table clothes, etc. It all adds up. My parents and many of my family members are making the food for the reception, my aunt is making the cake and cupcakes, and some of our friends are helping us with the beer, wine, and liquor.
Anyway, I’ve digressed. The reason I began writing this post was because as we listened to music to decide what song we wanted as part of the ceremony and what song we wanted as our first dance (David had originally wanted “Blue’s Man,” by Alan Jackson but changed his mind, we were dancing to the music in our living room. It was romantic and sweet, and reminded us both of how excited we are about the wedding, but mostly about our marriage. We’re both starting to get really excited about things. As we narrow down some of the finer details of the wedding it’s becoming more REAL.