Do my bridesmaids have to match?

30 Apr

I’m not going the traditional route. We’re really not a traditional couple. I’m 44, David will be 34 this coming weekend. We’ve both been married before, but neither of us had a wedding. We’re both parents, but my children are grown, David’s daughter is 12, plus I’m expecting a grandchild in July. David is a musician. He plays guitar and is the lead singer of a rock band. Our friends are from various backgrounds, ages, etc. So when it comes to the theme of our wedding we wanted something that fit us, that wasn’t “traditional,” and that felt right for what we were planning.

But when I first began planning the wedding I looked at dark purple for the bridesmaid dresses, flowers, etc. and was looking at a more traditional look. But as I did some research and began really looking at what it was going to look overall I didn’t like the matchy-matchy thing. I didn’t like the shades of purple that I found either, I began to see that purple wasn’t really going to work for me. The more I thought about it the more I realized I wanted my bridesmaids to look beautiful and feel comfortable, as well as be able to afford the bridesmaid dress. I also realized the traditional look wasn’t working for me. It just didn’t feel right.

We’re having an outdoor wedding, a barbecue reception, and it’s all at my parents home. The wedding is in the front yard and the reception will be in the back yard. So long dresses aren’t a smart idea. Thus began my research into bridesmaid dresses. So what did I come up with?

Little black dresses for the bridesmaids with silver shoes/sandals, and a little black dress with dark red sheer over it for the maid of honor with silver shoes/sandals. They’ll all have red bouquets. The groomsmen will be wearing red ties with black suits and white shirts. The best man…Well, I haven’t figured out whether his tie will be different yet, but I have decided to get them all musical themed socks

Believe it or not, I’ve told all of the bridesmaids to find a little black dress, if they don’t already have one, and to find silver sandals (to remember we are getting married outside so high heels might not be a good idea, even though I am wearing them, but I’ve found these great heel savers). My only request is to remember we’re getting married at my parents home so please, no “club” dresses, nothing tacky.
I like that their individual personalities will show at least a little in their wardrobe, and they won’t look like the bridesmaid clones that I’ve seen in some weddings. It works for some people, but it just doesn’t work for me.

I’ve asked them what they think, how they feel about it, and to be honest, they are all good with it. It’ll all come together with the flowers.


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