Over this past weekend (Happy Belated Memorial Day), I did not do anything wedding related, didn’t think about anything wedding related, the only wedding related thing I did was watch the movie “Bridesmaids,” which gave me a really good laugh.
Prior to the weekend, I was feeling completely burned out on wedding stuff. I was so stressed I was seriously beginning to consider eloping. To fully understand what a big deal that is here is some background:
Feb 2, 1990 Ex husband and I go to the county courthouse and have a justice of the peace marry us in the small church across the street from the courthouse. We eloped! It was just the two of us and the JOP. No frills, no witnesses, just “I do” and then bam! we’re married. No honeymoon either. After we were married I had to go to work that evening (I was working as a receptionist at a car dealership and was working the 5pm-9pm shift at the time).
David and his ex wife also got married at the court house, though his parents and hers were in attendance.
Because neither of us had an actual wedding the first go round, we really want to make this special. We want to share and celebrate our big day with our loved ones.
BUT neither of us realized when we decided to have a wedding that wedding planning was going to be such a pain in the arse. We didn’t realize how expensive it was going to be, even DIY weddings are expensive. And let’s face it, we’re broke but we’re happy. Oh, we’re doing much better than we were, but between home repairs, catching up on things, regular living expenses, shit that breaks, and shit in general, the wedding stuff keeps getting pushed back. Well, we don’t have much time left to push the wedding stuff back. Only we don’t really have a choice.
So…This weekend we didn’t plan anything except to let our friend who is our officiant know we have the ceremony pretty much put together and we’re going to get together soon for dinner and go over it. Friday night we hung out with friends and listened to live music. My friend Teresa who passed away last September was really good friends with Greg Austin and we went to see him sing Fri night, which was a little hard for me because the last time I saw Greg sing was at Teresa’s funeral. First time I saw him sing I was hanging out with Teresa. Saturday we went to David’s band’s charity gig, then we picked up K___ (David’s daughter) and got pizza and watched movies. Sunday we watched movies and chilled (we finally got to sleep in). and we moved some furniture around–we’re not finished with that yet. K___ went home Monday around noon or so, and David and I vegged on the couch watching movies and just spending time together.
We really needed that break from any and all wedding plans. David knew how stressed out I’d become over the wedding plans, not to mention trying to plan my daughter’s baby shower, so he made sure we had a relaxed weekend.
Now, if we could just get the air conditioner to work better, figure out how to get the other air conditioner hooked up, we’d be much better.