So we have 81 days left until the wedding, and my “local” bridal shower with the wedding party and friends is this Saturday, and I’m getting really excited. I went into the wedding planning stoked! So excited and I guess I naively believed that some of the people in my life would be just as excited about it as me, but I’ve slowly begun to realize that while there are some people who are really excited, there are others who are sort of ambivalent about it–not that I expect everyone to be super excited about it, but I do expect at least some excitement from certain people. However, I’m not getting nearly the excitement that I thought I’d get. So I guess the adage, “Nobody is as excited about your wedding as you are” is true.
I feel a bit let down. I get that David and I have both been married before, but neither of us had a wedding before. So this is new to both of us, as is our relationship–neither of us have ever been this happy, or loved this way, or felt this good, so we want to share our love and our commitment to each other (our wedding) with the people that we love and care about. Ironically enough, there are people I’ve only known for a few months to a year that are more excited about the wedding than people I’ve known for a long time (including some family members).
My brother, for example, has been helping tremendously in regards to getting my parents yard ready foe the wedding, and in helping us find the perfect place to stay (while staying on a budget) for our honeymoon. My friend Amanda has been so helpful. Without her I would have been lost. My friend Gena who is working 2 jobs has been there for me, even with limited time constraints. And my cousin LaDonna has helped in all kinds of ways, from taking me dress shopping to helping me throw my daughter a baby shower. My dad and my uncle Barry are going to making homemade barbecue for the reception, my uncle has loaned my dad tents, including two that are gazebo tents, and one of my aunts is making our cake, along with cupcakes, for the wedding, as well as her homemade baked beans (that David absolutely loves). Once we realized we couldn’t afford the photographer (whom I really adored her work), but with all the home repairs and stuff it just wasn’t/isn’t feasible, a friend of mine who used to be a professional photographer offered to take pictures of the wedding for us (Yay!). And our friend Scott Miller is playing and singing at our reception, and even writing us a song. So I’m really happy about all of this.
I guess I thought more people would be excited, would be trying to be more involved, or something. I figured I’d have too many people trying to help. Mind you I am not complaining, I am simply disappointed. I have a ton of stuff I still need to do, like go get the card stock and stuff so I can print the invitations, I am going to need to address all of them, and then I’m going to need to finalize the programs and print those. Plus I need to sand and then spray paint the jars I’ve been saving for the reception tables. I need to find some more red silk/satin flowers for the tables, as well as inexpensive table clothes. I also need to figure out the rest of the menu and who is going to make it (if it’s going to be covered dishes that some people are bringing, if I need to get people to bring stuff, etc) and we need to figure out where we’re going to get the alcohol for the reception because we can’t afford it–at my brother’s wedding many years ago they did BYOB (a bunch of people brought beer and bottle of liquor and mixers and ice, etc) for the reception. The only problem with that is that we are having the wedding in Round O and quite a few of our guests will be coming from Sumter and that is a nice little drive and we do not want people drinking and driving.
I am trying to plan all of this myself and I have no real idea of what I am doing, and I am beginning to get really frustrated and depressed/disappointed about certain things. There have been days over the past few months where one or the other of us has even considered eloping, which we really don’t want to do.