We’re married now. Today I’m going to the Social Security office and the DMV to “officially” change my name. We’ll have been married for a week tomorrow. Over this past week, we’ve opened two bottles of wine and drank them with dinner, which has been really nice. (We received one of the bottles as a gift.) We’ve put away most of our wedding presents. We’ve watched movies, cleaned some of the house (we left a creative mess of clutter behind when we left for the wedding), and we’ve done laundry (one bottle of wine popped open in my duffle bag full of clothes so we had a stinky mess), and we’ve just enjoyed each others company. Do I feel any different now that we’ve gotten married? Yes and no.
Our honeymoon should have been for this whole week, but we both had to go back to work. So we both feel a little cheated since we didn’t get a long enough honeymoon, but we’ve tried to make this whole week more special by doing things like having wine with our dinner, or just having some wine just because. We went out to dinner once and it was so nice to just sit and enjoy each others company. I think that was the thing about the honeymoon that we miss–we really had some quality time together because it was just the two of us. In daily life, there are all of these demands on your time, whether it is your job, your family, your friends, your home, or just life in general. But on our honeymoon all we had to do was spend time together. It was relaxing and enjoyable.
I wish we’d had a smaller wedding. I wish we’d made it more personal, but at the same time there was no way to have a smaller wedding because I have so much family and he has so many friends–to cut back on the amount of people we would have had to make it immediate family and friends only, and then my aunts and uncles that I love so much wouldn’t have been there, and I couldn’t do that. And there were friends of his he’s known forever and feel like family, as well as some of my friends who feel like family, and we really wanted those people there. I wish it hadn’t rained–IT WAS ACTUALLY A RAIN STORM, even though it didn’t last long. It made it impossible to do a receiving line, nor did we get to do the bouquet and garter tosses, and because of the rain quite a few people left early. But some of our family and friends stayed, and we had a really good time, even with the rain, and after the rain stopped.
Now that we’ve gotten married, and the wedding is over, what next? Well, we’re organizing our home, putting away gifts, we’re going to tackle some DIY projects, and we’ll be living life and being happy. I’m sure that things will come up, real life stuff, that was happening before we got married, especially since we were already living together, but we’ll handle things together. I do feel a deeper sense of permanence after saying our vows–the ceremony was so special and it did make me feel married in a way that living together doesn’t give you, no matter how committed you are to each other. David and I felt like we were married before the wedding, but I think both of us feel “more married” now. I’m so happy. He makes me the happiest I’ve ever been.
Sure there are flaws. We both have them. David leaves his socks in the living room floor, he is a procrastinator and late for almost everything, but he’s also the sweetest, most romantic, talented, passionate, and considerate person I’ve ever known. He’s smart, sexy, wonderful, kind, compassionate, generous, and fun. He makes me feel more relaxed, he makes me laugh. He brings out the best in me. And he’d tell you I bring out the best in him, that I make him the happiest he’s ever been. The wedding has only made things better. I think we both feel a deeper sense of connection and commitment now.
If we ever renew our vows, though, we’re going to Vegas!
So I’ll be posting DIY projects soon, and pictures of places we go visit, perhaps pictures of David/Mr. Rockstar’s gigs…Etc!!!