I don’t get really personal on my blog, don’t get me wrong, I get just personal enough so that it is personal, since it’s my blog, but I don’t delve deep into things like major problems, religious views, or political views. My opinion is just that, my opinion, but I’m pretty sure that most people don’t care about my opinion. I mean, who am I? Really?
All my life I had been looking for something, and everywhere I turned someone tried to tell me what it was. I accepted their answers too, though they were often in contradiction and even self-contradictory. I was naïve. I was looking for myself and asking everyone except myself questions which I, and only I, could answer. It took me a long time and much painful boomeranging of my expectations to achieve a realization everyone else appears to have been born with: that I am nobody but myself. ~Ralph Ellison, “Battle Royal”
Except one voice can make a difference. One voice can change things.
Unless someone like you cares a whole awful lot, nothing is going to get better. It’s not. Dr. Seuss, The Lorax
Right now there’s a friend of mine who is going through a really rough time. This person is a bit depressed, frustrated, overwhelmed, and it is understandable with all that is going on, but how do you (I) make a difference? If I had the money I’d help so many people. People I know, people I don’t know, but things are rough all around, so there is little I can do other than offer my support, and ear to listen, a shoulder to lean on. That’s what friends are for, right? Right!
If a friend is in trouble, don’t annoy him by asking if there is anything you can do. Think up something appropriate and do it. ~Edgar Watson Howe
My husband and I have awesome and amazing friends. A friend of ours just gave my daughter a washing machine :D, and several friends of ours are trying to find us a dryer since ours went up in smoke 😀 And Mr. Rockstar’s best friend is helping us fix the car :D. So we are truly blessed in the friends department. But I miss my best friend. She lives almost 2 hours away and I haven’t seen her since the wedding. We want to go visit but every time we think we have the money to go, something else happens–like the car. So I completely understand frustration and being overwhelmed. There are times, especially lately with so many things breaking or going wrong, when I’ve felt completely overwhelmed and frustrated. To the point where I felt like throwing my hands up in the air and shouting to the roof tops “I QUIT!” but I’m no quitter. I don’t have any quit in me.
When the world says, “Give up,”
Hope whispers, “Try it one more time.”
Quitting isn’t an option. It just isn’t.
You can’t go through life quitting everything. If you’re going to achieve anything, you’ve got to stick with something. ~From the television show Family Matters
I think all you can do when someone you love is having a rough time, regardless of what it is or why, is to be there for that person. You can help them by just being there. I wish I could do more, but sometimes doing more isn’t the right thing to do, and sometimes it just isn’t possible or feasible. Being supportive, helping my friend see that there are other options, choices, and that if my friend just hangs in there then things will get better. My friend just can’t see the forest for the trees right now. So I’m here to help point out the forest.