Day 20 How important is education to you.
I was the first in my mom’s family to graduate from high school. My mom never got her high school diploma, my daddy got his while in the Army. My daddy was BIG on education, my mom’s big thing was for us to graduate from high school. Her family had been farmers, so had my (step)dad’s, so when I was in high school college was a dream, but it was more of something I probably wouldn’t be able to do. I got a partial scholarship, but it wasn’t enough, and my parents couldn’t afford to pay the rest, and I didn’t know back then what I know now–I’d have been able to go. When my father died he was a veteran. I’d have been able to get help. And I didn’t know anything about grants or student loans back then. So I went to work at a bank. This was 1985-6.
When I was 18 I was working full-time at the bank, working part-time at a department store, and taking 2 classes a week at the local technical college. I stayed busy. I lived on my own with a roommate. Mind you, they were through the bank and geared towards that career path, though it was not the path I’d chosen. Two years later, I was taking the physical to go in the Air Force and found I was pregnant. I was at MEPs and they told me I couldn’t go in the AF because I was pregnant. I was shocked. I hadn’t had sex in over 3 months, I was on the pill, I’d had my period two weeks prior to the physical.
But I was pregnant…19 1/2 weeks pregnant. So there went my plans to join the military and serve my country and get an education. I had my son and went to work as a cashier when he was 5 weeks old. I had bills I had to pay. I’d moved back in with my folks, but I didn’t want to stay there. But my education was calling me! I was a single parent, I knew I needed some stability, so I checked out a school that offered a paralegal program. I had straight A’s. I loved it! Then Hurricane Hugo hit and the school was shut down for a little while. I was so happy to go back. I got engaged a little over a month later, and I went back to work for a while. Then I began classes again. I got married. My education took a back burner once again.
To make a long story short, my education has always taken a back seat to something, whether it was my children, my relationship, home,…It was always something. I still don’t have my degree, I’m now a grandparent. And the one thing I really want to do is to finish my degree and go to photography school. ONE DAY! I tell myself. I promise myself. But the student loans piled up. I don’t have enough to finish and I can’t afford to do it on my own. I am technically unemployed…the job I do have is a commission only job and I just got it so I’m not making any money at it yet. Mr. Rockstar pays our bills, but there isn’t enough left over for me to go to school. If we had it, he’d pay it without batting an eye. I’m finally with someone who believes in education and who supports me whole heartedly, yet we can’t afford it. Hopefully, we’ll be able to soon though.
However, both of my children are in college. This is my daughter’s last semester for her 2 year degree. This is only my son’s second semester. I’m an extremely proud parent. Education is paramount to having a good job and job security. I know this from real world experience. I’ve stressed how important education is. I’ve spent over 25 years back and forth trying to get my degree, but something else was always more important. Now that I have the time I don’t have the money. Now that I have a supportive significant other, it’s just not feasible right this moment, but as soon as it is I’ll be back in school and this time nothing is stopping me.
Mr. Rockstar and I both have made a pact: we’re both going back to school. We’re working towards making that happen!