Daily Prompt: Back to the Future
A service has been invented through which you can send messages to people in the future. To whom would you send something, and what would you write?
I have a husband, a son, a daughter, a step-daughter, and a grandson. I’d want to write a letter to all of them, and to any future grandchildren I might have. Do I have to choose one person? I think I don’t. I think since it’s my post, and my letter I will write each one at least a short letter.
Dear Mr. Rockstar,
(Don’t freak out, I’ve sent this letter from the past.) It’s the year 2013 and there are a few things I’d like the future you to know. I love you. You are the love of my life. You’ve made me the happiest I’ve ever been. Before you, I’d almost lost all hope of ever having love, not that I didn’t believe it existed but I didn’t believe it existed for me. And then we met. When we took our vows we took them forever and always, not just until death. I meant that. And you’ll be my love forever and always. But if I’m not around, I don’t want you to wallow in grief. I don’t want you to shut people out and become a hermit. Nor do I want you to be alone for the rest of your life. Spend time with the kids, the grandkid, and your family. Spend time with friends. Play the guitar and sing. Be good to yourself. Be happy. Live your life to the fullest, even if I’m not there to share it with. And remember, the next go round maybe we’ll find each other sooner. But I want you live the best life you can while you have it. You ROCK and I’m so glad that we met and I’ll be here when you get here.
Forever and Always,
Dear Doug and Maria,
From the moment of your birth, though it was a close call with Doug, I’ve been so proud and so happy. I want both of you to remember that life is what you make it. As difficult as life can be sometimes, it’s the simple things that matter. I made mistakes as a parent, as a person…But that’s what life is about: living and learning. I’d have spent more quality time with you, I’d have spent less time worrying about other things and more time enjoying each and every moment with you. I’d have taken you on vacations and I’d have gotten on the slide and swings more often. I can’t change that now, but I can tell you a few things that might help you in the future and as parents or just as individuals.
Live life to the fullest. Life is made of moments, and it is the moments that make the difference. Remember to find joy in the small things and to appreciate those simple things. When someone makes you smile, laugh, think…enjoy that moment and appreciate it. Appreciate the people in your life who make you smile, laugh, and think. They are important, you’ll need to keep them around. Don’t take anything for granted. Remember that regardless of what happens in your life you are strong enough to handle it, even if it doesn’t feel like you are. And remember that being brave doesn’t mean being stupid. Stand up for yourself but don’t trample over anyone else.
Being a single parent is the toughest job there is, and no one is perfect, but it’s possible, especially if you have support like family and friends. If you have children, and Maria you already do, remember that no matter what they come first. But in order to be a good parent, especially when you’re doing it alone, it’s important that you’re a happy and healthy person too. You can’t take care of anyone else if you’re not able to take care of yourself. Be good to yourself not just your kids. And remember that they are your kids while they are kids, you’re the parent, later once they are grown you can be their friend. It’s sometimes difficult to not cave in when they have that pouty puppy dog face and crocodile tears streaming down their faces but be consistent, patient, brave, and loving. Temper discipline with love.
Most of all, be happy. Life is too short not to be. Let go of the past, and move on. Don’t hold grudges, they keep that negativity brewing inside of you and it makes it harder to be truly happy. And remember, I love you. I’ve loved you from before you were out here in the world, when you were growing inside me, until the moment I passed on from this life. You are my greatest accomplishments. You’re my pride and joy. And I am proud of both of you. Be the person you want to be. And hopefully, you’ll find a career that you love. You should live life not have life live you. Remember I love you!!!!
When your dad and I met we were both a package deal. You are so sweet, pretty, smart, and kind. You’re a lot like your dad (laid back, patient, sweet, smart…) and he’s so proud of you. Remember that. You are his pride and joy. And I’m so proud to be your step-mom. You can do anything you want, be whatever you want. Do not limit yourself. But most of all be happy. Life is truly too short not to. I wish I’d gotten the chance to get to know you better, to spend more time with you. But I’d like for you to know that I love you. And I’m so glad that you’re a part of my life.
Dear Viktor (MeMe’s little man),
I cannot describe to you the joy that you’ve brought into my life. Your precious face makes me smile no matter what is going on. You are so beautiful, smart, humorous, and adorable. I could not be more proud. One day you’ll want to know things about me, about your mom and dad, about your grandfather, your great grandparents, and know this: people can research their ancestors, they can get the names and the where they came from when they died and when they were born, but what’s important can’t be gotten from research or from names. You come from a family filled with smart, crazy, loving, humorous, attractive, patient and impatient, brave, and kind people. I could tell you stories, and I will write a few more letters telling you about various people and things that happened, but the important things for you to know are simple:
Love, kindness, patience, compassion, affection, respect, honesty, trust, and courage. Those are the things that matter. Love and you will know love in return. Show kindness and it will be given back to you. Be patient and you won’t be disappointed as often or as stressed. Be compassionate towards others and towards yourself because none of us are perfect and we’re all going to need compassion. Show affection and appreciate when others are affectionate to you. Have respect for yourself and demand it of others and give others respect…the world definitely needs for people to be more respectful. Be honest with yourself and others. Without respect and honesty trust is impossible to build. And be courageous–don’t be afraid to try new things, or to meet new people, or to be open-minded.
When you’re not sure about something take the time to think about it. See what your guts tells you. If your guts says no, or isn’t sure then it probably isn’t a good thing. Remember to have patience with your mom. She’s an amazing and wonderful mom, and I’m so proud of her, but she’s human and she’ll need you to be patient with her at times. Tell her you love her. Tell her you’re proud of her. She’ll need to hear it just like you will. Remember that life is what you make it. You can be whatever you want, if you want to be a lawyer then go for it, or if you want to be a computer programmer, or an artist, or a doctor, or a truck driver. You can be whatever you want just make sure it’s something that makes you happy.
I might not be around when you get this letter, but I want you to know how very much I love you and very proud of you I am. You’ll always be my little man and I’ll always love you. Be good to your parents. Parents don’t last forever, we get old…or we die young. I love you, Viktor.
- Daily Prompt: Back to the Future (cognitivereflection.wordpress.com)
- Daily Prompt: Letter to My Future Grandkids (midlifemusingsblog.wordpress.com)