180 Degree Turn

14 Mar

One week before Halloween in 2009 I left an almost 10 year relationship. I talked about it a little in my post Love is passion. Obsession. You can’t… , and as far as I was concerned I was done with relationships. Though I knew love existed, I did not believe it was for me–for whatever reason I was meant to be alone and I was okay with that. It took me almost a year to find the ME that I’d misplaced in that almost 10 year relationship, as well as the bits and pieces of me I’d lost a long time before that when my ex-husband decided he was single while we were still married (I was in my early 20’s way back then), so the idea of jumping into a relationship with anyone was pretty much null and void. Not going to happen, I thought. I swore off relationships and just enjoyed being single.

I should never have said never. Oh but I did, and later I would eat those words.

When Mr. Rockstar and I began seeing each other we were just spending time together at first. We became friends. Then before I knew it he’d become one of my best friends. Almost 2 months after we went out for the first time, I realized just how attracted to him I was, just how much I enjoyed spending time with him, and how every time I was away from him I missed his presence. Since I’d made so many changes when I left the EX, I was a bit put off with myself–Was I really falling for him? Was I really seriously considering getting INVOLVED with someone? Yes, I was and I did.

When we got engaged six months later most people who knew me were a bit shocked…WHAT? You’re engaged? You’re getting married? A friend of mine said, “Hold on a sec, YOU are getting married? He must be one hell of a guy!” And one of my cousins said, “WHAT? You don’t do marriage. Are you okay?” But another cousin said, “WOW! You must really love him…He must treat you really good…”

And as I began to plan the wedding I soon realized why I didn’t do the WEDDING thing, but was more than ready for the marriage part. I We got through the wedding planning, and just before our wedding while we were out for our Bachelor/Bachelorette party (yes, we had a combined one, we have many mutual friends plus we’re both older, though I’m a bit OLDER, and we’d both already been married, and we’d been living together soooo)…a guy we know hits on me. His exact words were, “You sure about this. You could always have that one last fling or you could just bail and come with me.” I was flabbergasted. I just said, “Thanks  but no thanks.” And right on over to Mr. Rockstar and hugged him for being the wonderful person and man that he is.

I don’t regret changing my mind about marriage. I never had a problem with marriage itself, I just never believed it was for me. After my first marriage went KAPUT I always said, “I’d rather just live in sin…” But when Mr. Rockstar proposed I knew in my heart that it was the right thing and on our wedding day I knew it was the right thing. I’ve been blessed and I’m so glad I changed my mind about marriage.

Daily Prompt: 180 Degrees

by michelle w. on March 14, 2013

Tell us about a time you did a 180 — changed your views on something, reversed a decision, or acted in a way you ordinarily don’t.


Posted by on March 14, 2013 in Change, DPChallenge, Happiness, life, love, marriage, wedding


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16 responses to “180 Degree Turn

  1. Dave Walker

    March 14, 2013 at 12:00 pm

    After swinging and missing on two marriages, I was in the same boat and had sworn off marriage. My wife had gone through a crappy marriage as well when we first met. We were content and happy just living together.

    All that changed in 2011, when we decided marriage actually felt right. We were married on 11/11/11 and the third times is definitely my charm.

    • Lissa

      March 14, 2013 at 12:35 pm

      Thanks Dave. When we met we’d both been married before. I’d been divorced for almost 19 years, and he’d been divorced for almost ten. We’d both been in unhealthy/toxic relationships before we met so neither of us even wanted to date, much less get married. But it was the best decision I’ve made in a very long time. We were married 9/8/12.

  2. misselletea

    March 14, 2013 at 12:14 pm

    I bet he is glad you changed your mind too! 🙂

    • Lissa

      March 14, 2013 at 12:35 pm

      Thanks. I think we changed each other’s minds. He’d tell you he’s the luckiest man on Earth. And I have to say I feel like the luckiest woman on Earth. 😀

  3. cookiecharm

    March 14, 2013 at 9:43 pm

    Love this! I wish ya’ll much love and joy for years to come. Great post

    • Lissa

      March 15, 2013 at 12:04 am

      Thanks 😀

  4. Wiley Schmidt

    March 14, 2013 at 10:54 pm

    I love this! And did you change your background/appearance recently? I like it!

    • Lissa

      March 14, 2013 at 10:55 pm

      Thanks. I changed my theme a while back.

      • Wiley Schmidt

        March 14, 2013 at 10:58 pm

        Perhaps I should follow the blog so I would notice these things sooner. 🙂 I like the look and I love you. So there’s that. 🙂

      • Lissa

        March 15, 2013 at 12:03 am

        *Blushing!* Thanks 😀


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